Rest

Maybe that should be step three... rest... I'm not sure rest is something a recovering headless chicken can do without help... maybe we need to get a supervisor about now.  We certainly need to confess.  Hi, My name is Ruth Ann Lea and I'm a headless chicken. Rest is a lot more than stopping activity... Hmmm, I'm not sure what it is any ideas?

Being still is an art!

It's not that computers are bad but they are a distraction for me. Being still means getting off of this thing and taking time to ponder. Being still feels like stepping out of the world for a while. I can't do that if I don't turn off my cell phone (txt's can wait!) Shut off my computer and even get outside... away from the distractions of dishes and all. Gak! sometimes I need to get away from my house all together because there are things outside that are begging for my attention. It's tough. That's for sure

What about wrenches?

That's my question today. How do you stay headed, as apposed to headless when a tree falls on your house? Forget about writing a list and cutting it in half. We have lots of rain in the north. We NEED to get this off of our house! But then maybe it is not about working or not working but realizing when you are finished for the day. You can only accomplish so much in a day. Perhaps we are confused as to what our limits are? A day will have to end. We will not get this cleaned up in a day. This is just another test of balance. Geeze! I'm thinking this test of balance is like dropping an anvil on someone's tight rope wire!

Superman Syndrome

Sometimes we think more highly of ourselves that we ought. It's kind of a superman syndrome. We think we can scale tall demands in a single bound! What would happen if we accepted our limitations? What if limitations are there to protect us, not to limit us? What would happen if we said, "no". I don't think it can be reasonably done in that amount of time? What if we slowed down?

I'm not sure what step this should be in the process but somewhere in there a step in the process is, "just say, "NO!"' I keep thinking that I can add one more thing onto the pile of things I have to do today. I make a list of what I need to do in a day, cut it in half and make it too and than start adding addendums. Good grief! I can't do everything, well I think I can... but do I want to?

I think it is hard to teach people around me that I have limitations. These are people who have become accustomed to me doing more than I have the energy for. I have taught them to expect me to perform at a certain, insane level of proficiency. Arg! How do I get off this train?

Step two?

While we are still working on step one which is to make a list of everything you want to do in a day and cut it in half and make it two. I am pondering what the next step could be. This is still in the beginning phases of the Headless Chicken's anonymous organization. I'm not sure if this is step two but as we are digging at the roots of our driven-ness I am finding that our debt is a huge motivator. We are busy, overly busy because we want to get free. Hmmm, sounds like slavery to me. Getting out of that trap will take some time.

We have already been working at the root. We have been changing our thinking. We don't have need of much. We have too much stuff that is not necessary. All of it robs us of time.

Step one:

So, there is so much pressure to perform. So many calls for our attention. It seems like if you get tired it's harder to say no which makes you more exhausted so it's even harder to say no. Starting today... we are trying again. We profess to be charter members of "Headless Chickens Anonymous" want to join?

First Meeting we talked about step one: Make a list every other day for what you plan to do in that day and then cut your list in half and make it a list for two.

So far, well it's a step right? It's not supposed to be accomplished in a day. This is going to take some practice!